Stuart's Spectacular Students

This is dedicated to my amazing students. The goal is for each and every one of them to feel unstoppable by the time they walk out of the classroom door for the final time in May. This chronicles their journey; their own Chronicles of Self-Actualization.

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Friday, June 12, 2009

Sitting in the Stands of Life

6/11 – Magic v Lakers,Game 4

Went to the game. Enjoyed it thoroughly even though we lost, because I was able to constantly think of what I wanted to happen v. didn't (We're going to score v. I hope we don't miss this basket). That was a victory in itself, being able to control my own thoughts and emotions no matter what the external world was doing (or not doing).

But I couldn't help looking around and thinking that so many people spend their lives sitting in the stands, watching life pass them by, entertaining or numbing themselves watching others live their lives.

Instead of being inspired by the tiny percentage of players they are watching who developed their gifts to NBA caliber, and using that inspiration to develop their own gifts (which is usually the non-egoic dreams we have, the passions we follow)…..they think small of themselves, lying to themselves that others are lucky, or born with gifts, while they weren’t.

There has to be a way to get all of us living as our largest selves. Because even as you are pursuing your passion(s), you are living as your largest self, getting better and better at what you would do for free, and closer and closer to living your dream.

Maybe we aren't the next Thomas Edison, but can't we also overcome thousands of failures, realizing that we are getting one step closer to our success with each and every failure that we learn from? Why do we give up so easily on ourselves? Why aren't we our own biggest fan?

Why is it so hard to believe in ourselves?.........and so easy to believe in others who already believe in themselves?

Because that's what we ask our brains to find out. Why aren't we achieving our most important dreams? How can we justify settling?

What if instead we shifted our focus on HOW CAN we achieve our most important dreams? How CAN we justify trying no matter what others say and no matter how long it takes?

If we were able to ask the dead what they wished for the most, I'm sure most would say, "Just one more chance to live again, to live fearlessly, courageously, and energetically.

Maybe we should ask our future dead selves what we would wish for? If our answer is the same..........maybe we should live as if each of our todays is that one more chance..........

One more chance to get on the court of life, versus choosing to sit in the stands and watch it pass us by.

Tuesday, June 09, 2009

When Worlds Collide

Well, my son didn't even make it 24 hours. His mom and I are really working together to get his behavior with me duplicated at home with her.

At the drop-off yesterday he started acting up as soon as he got in her car.

Recently his mom, other dad and I sat down to figure out why the difference. We came to the conclusion that I don't hope he'll behave, I KNOW he will.

When the bar has been set, when he fails to meet it, mom lowers the bar while I raise it. When he chooses to do less, I make him do more. When he chooses to shrink, I make him expand.

When asked, Brosden said I'm like "this world that collides with others and makes them more". During a pick-up at Denny's last week Bella noticed a man with his pants down around his butt and said, "Eww".

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As I walked over I noticed he had a baby. I appealed to his sense of fatherhood and told him I wasn't telling him what to do, but just as he had a right to wear his clothes how he wanted, I had a right as a father not to have my little girl see his underwear.

He looked down at me as if I was crazy, and I smiled back with a look that told him I meant what I said. He hesitated, then pulled up his pants saying he was in a hurry getting dressed that morning. I told him I knew what that was like and really appreciated what he did....and I meant that too.

"Winning" isn't about controlling or defeating another, it's about elevating another to a higher level of thinking and being.

Brosden knows this and trusts me when I collide my world with his. He tells his friends that "when you get past his intimidating toughness, he's just a big squishy."

And I am. At the center of my being is a swirling, nurturing, overflowing core of squishy love.....

The greatest source of power and energy ever to have existed....

And after I die will continue to exist and grow in the lives of others.

I am not a father, a teacher, a man, etc......these are only outside things. What I really am is the present moment.

I can choose not to be present by living in the past and all its mistakes and failures, or I can live in the future and all its unknown fears.....

Or I can shut both these out and become fully conscious and aware of all the power and possibility of this present moment, acting out of love, of strength, of happiness and courage.......out of unlimited possibility.

When we choose to do this, we become so much more than what we were just a moment ago.......and so do the others around us.

And things that never existed before in our lives, now do.

Sunday, June 07, 2009

Life Expanding Education

Education can become, and IS becoming, so much more than what it has been.

It is becoming a life-long process of self-teaching and learning, where we are growing every day throughout our lives; growing happier, healthier, richer, smarter, and stronger all the time.

This makes getting up in the morning very exciting. Instead of experiencing negative emotions when you come across what you don't have, you experience waves of possibilities of yourself having more by becoming more........and you know that what you can become is scientifically proven to be unlimited.

Ride these waves of quantum possibility. Let them take you to a brand new world of reality......The world of your highest self. The world of your highest thoughts.

You cannot help the poor by destroying the rich.
You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.
You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift.
You cannot lift the wage earner up by pulling the wage payer down.

You cannot further the brotherhood of man by inciting class hatred.

You cannot build character and courage by taking away people's initiative and independence.
You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves.

.....Abraham Lincoln
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